How to Make People Want to Be Your Best Friend

Wanting to be liked is a natural instinct. Wanting to have a best friend is also something that most people desire. The problem is
, not everyone knows how to do this. You can increase your chances of making people want to be your best friend by projecting your best self, putting in the work, and knowing the signs that you’re coming on too strong.

Exude confidence. People tend to flock to those who have a good sense of self-confidence. They often admire them and want to be around them. Project self-confidence to others, even if you don’t have much, and you’ll likely attract more friends.

• The key to effective and attractive self-confidence is to not come off as cocky or self-centered. Simply walk with your back straight, shoulders back, and head held high. Look people in the eye and smile when you talk to them.^[1]
• Don't act like you're better than others by not speaking or ignoring them. Make everyone you meet feel like a million bucks.

Avoid negative self-talk. As much as it can be funny to make yourself the subject of a good joke, don't take self-deprecating talk too far. People don't want to be around someone who always talks about themselves too much--whether it's positive or negative.

• For example, don't let your social group catch you saying negative things like "I'm fat" or "I look hideous." People want to be around people who feel good about themselves because that type of self-confidence can be contagious.
• Belittling yourself sends the message that you're secretly low in confidence. So, avoid such language at all costs.

Start conversations. You can’t expect people to want to be your friend if you aren’t willing to put yourself out there. Strike up conversations with people whenever and wherever you can. You never know, you could find your new best friend in line at the grocery store. Practice what you are going to say to someone when you are alone. You could talk about the weather, the local sports team, outlandish celebrity news, or whatever you like to talk about. Having a topic prepared can help you feel more confident when you try to talk with someone new.

 

 Join a social group to meet new people. If you want to meet new people and potential best friends, you’ll need to engage in new experiences. You’re not going to meet anyone if you aren’t willing to try new things. Finding people who are interested in what you are is a great start at finding true friends. Join groups or take classes that interest you. Doing so gives you a great chance of finding someone who enjoys the same things you do. You could also ask your friends and family if you could meet their friends, or talk to people who share the same religious beliefs as you do. Some of the most meaningful relationships start because of shared interests.